Too Many Rules!
On Sunday I came to a realisation about something that I think I have been pondering without really knowing it the last few weeks. It was about being happy. In the past, I have placed so many conditions so many rules on what must be for me to be happy. When I achieve this I will be happy. When I ….. then I will be happy. When I have created a system to change every childs’ life then I can be happy. All I have to do is change the world and I’ll be happy. This is how I thought. These were the rules I had created. I thought that if I let my standards drop then I wouldn’t achieve the goals I had. Essentially I was afraid that if I let myself be happy then I might not achieve the level of success I expected of myself.
The realisation came courtesy of an 18 month old child. I always learn the most important lessons from kids. He was riding his trike along the footpath with his dad trailing behind, massive smile on his face. He didn’t need a specific reason to be happy, there weren’t any rules for him. He was just happy.
What I have now realised is that I can just be happy. It doesn’t mean I dont still strive for the same high standards, it just means that I choose to be happy while I strive for those goals. So now I choose to be happy. I don’t need the tumour to be gone for me to be happy. I can have cancer and be happy too. When I am not feeling super happy, its pretty easy to get back – all I have to do is think about that child. Or I ask myself what I could be happy about. Its not hard to come up with an answer to that - I have great friends, family, and people in my life. I am adding this question to my morning routine to make sure I start the day in the best possible frame to really live the day, I encourage you to add it to yours. What could you be happy about?
Yes I have cancer, yes I am happy!
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